Thoughts on Sex

This was originally posted in a group for Mormon teenage girls, where I felt impressed to share my thoughts. It's not bashing anyone who has had premarital sex. It's just my thoughts on the incredible power sex carries, and the dangers of playing with it.




Okay wow sex is amazing. But it's something amazing that takes the emotion of TWO people. Not just your emotions and his emotions separately. It really does take both emotions to make it amazing. You may think it's just something that you can enjoy and then it's done. But it absolutely isn't. I sometimes think it is, but it's not. That's why at the beginning of a marriage, you basically don't see the light for the first few weeks haha. You are so in love and it's amazing to be able to share something so awesome with someone who feels the same as you do.

Being pregnant makes it a TAD difficult to enjoy it myself right now. After I was finally able to enjoy it for the first time in MONTHS with my husband, I realized that it's a huge emotional blessing. We had been kinda drifting and getting bored with each other, and even afterward I felt kinda "eh husband". But the next day and throughout the entire week, I felt SO MUCH MORE love for my husband. I flirted with him more, I felt more inclined to do nice things for him, I made fun of him less and I just felt so much less annoyed at him for stupid things.

That being said, I have had friends who had "friend with benefits" that they would get together with whenever they were up for it. They would each other that they would just be friends and just do it for fun. No commitment at all. And if one of them decided to get a girlfriend or a boyfriend, that would be the end of their benefits. They understood that completely and said they had no feelings for the other. But as their "friendship" went on and they talked to me about it daily, I could see the emotional attachment that this "friendship" was creating for them. And when one got a girlfriend or a boyfriend, they were devastated. It hurt a lot, even though that was exactly what they planned.

Being able to have sex is truly a gift from God. It's not like some candy basket from your YW's leader that you can just share with everyone, devour and forget about. It's a precious family heirloom that you have to continue to polish, protect and cherish. You wouldn't share a priceless family heirloom with someone you barely know. You'd hardly even share it with someone you're close friends with. And if they're your close friend, they will totally understand. They're not going to make you share that priceless heirloom with them, because they know how much it means to you. And they have something just as priceless, and they know that you will respect their views the same way.

If you just share it with anyone, then it won't be as special. It'll be something you can just get easily, it doesn't matter where from. Eventually, you just devour it without sharing that emotional connection with someone special. It just becomes candy. Something pleasuring to you. If the other person enjoys it, woop de doo. But at the moment, all you'll be thinking about is YOUR enjoyment.

Sex is something SO SO special that you should be able to share with your spouse and no one else. He should be the only one knowing your little turn ons and offs, and knowing your vulnerability and it should be the same for you.

God gave us sex to create love. Not just children, we already know that part from Sex Ed. You are creating love every time you MAKE love. It's not intentional. It can't even be prevented. You can't just stop it from happening. It just HAPPENS. And the more you do it, the more the love is increased. That's what a child is. It's not just another human brought through sex. It is a literal manifestation and multiplication of your love. Something my husband and I always say is that his love and my love combined and multiplied created new love and that new love is growing and multiplying as we speak. And it will never stop. As long as that baby is growing and as long as my husband and I keep having sex and as long as we keep creating new love and life, that love will NEVER stop multiplying.

So please don't just give it up to anyone. Keep that heirloom, polish it, no matter how many times you may think it's too dirty to polish. It can always be clean again and it can always be kept close and special. There will come a time when you find someone with the same special heirloom, and you two will want to exchange and create new heirlooms to share with your family. Please keep those heirlooms sacred and love those heirlooms. Don't just play with them. Sex is not just candy for your enjoyment. It is a gift and a fragile blessing.